Most of us have an odd idea of what money’s job is. We treat it as if it was a sentient being. It’s amazing how much this abstract construct has become a force that we presume acts on its own. We wait for money to give us signals before we act. We blame money for our not being where we want to be in life. We refuse to look at our money because we are sure that it will lecture us or shame us. Money is doing its job, it’s just different than what we expect.
Many of us are waiting for something from money. Some sign that we are okay or have “arrived”. I’ve talked with people who feel that they can’t actually pursue the life they “really” want until they have somehow earned enough money to deserve it. At the same time others feel that not having amassed “enough” money is a fatal character flaw that they must hide. Others tend to spend what they don’t have.
These and other similar ideas come from not really understanding what money’s job is. All money is doing trying to tell you what you are doing. Money doesn’t tell you what you wish you were doing, it tells you what you are actually doing. It has no judgement, it just reports and reflects. As a matter of fact, it reflects very clearly.
Remember that old thing about “Try to pick up a pencil?” It was one of those things I experienced in a Personal Growth training years ago. You can’t actually “try”… you either pick it up or you don’t. There is similar way that we “try” with money. We want money to be there before we take a step or make a choice but money can’t do that. All money does is show what we are up to. So what it shows is that we are “trying” to have money do for us what we can’t do for ourselves.
There is more truth than we know in the “Do what you love, the money will follow,” statement, because that’s all the money can do. It follows or reflects what you are doing. It shows that you are waiting. It shows that you are accepting things that are contrary to your dreams, hopes and desires. It shows whether or not you are doing “what you love.”
Okay, I can feel your inner critic voice rising up and saying, “That’s nuts, I can’t just ignore all the responsibilities I have!” That’s absolutely true. And is it at all possible that you could honor your responsibilities in a way that has you also honoring your dreams and desires? What if you stop waiting for money to tell you when? What if you changed to you telling money, by how you use and earn it, what is truly important to you? It’s your job after all, not money’s. Money is doing its job. It’s reflecting what you are really up to. It will show you if you look. Money isn’t designed to generate something on its own. It’s designed to convert your energy into your wishes. That’s what it’s doing. If you want something different it’s up to you to change your actions, then money will reflect those changes.
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Shell Tain, The Untangler